Read the following excerpt from Best Life, by Kali Coleman, before deciding if you are guilty of this folly:
"Manners matter—most people know that. And typically, people try to put their best foot forward with proper etiquette and good behavior. However, sometimes you may put your foot in your mouth without even realizing it. According to experts, this is the one rude behavior you're probably engaging in often without realizing how rude it is: Telling a personal story of your own right after someone shared theirs.
'We often think that we are listening [to someone's story] but we're actually just considering how to jump in to tell our own story, offer advice, or even make a judgment—in other words, we are not listening to understand, but rather to reply,' Caren Osten, certified positive psychology life coach, wrote in Psychology Today.
Unfortunately, while you might try to use a related, follow-up story as a way to establish a link between yourself and the other person, many people err on the side of monopolizing the conversation and making it about themselves. In fact, there's actually a sociological term that describes someone who has the ability to consistently turn a conversation back to themselves: conversational narcissist, coined by sociologist Charles Derber in his book The Pursuit of Attention."